Most of us can’t rely on our mothers and in-laws for free child care. Either they live too far away, it comes with strings attached, it’s too much for them, or they are still working full-time. Times have changed and finding cheap, reliable child care is more difficult.
We've been told that motherhood takes a lot of sacrifice. Time. Money Energy. You might be surprised by the real sacrifices great mothers make everyday.
You've seen countless getting ready for baby checklist. They feature gear, baby room, finance stuff. But this list is about getting emotionally ready for baby. What matters on the mental and emotional level to get ready to be a mom.
We are going to be highlighting some essential happy mom skills. It won't be anything like time management, laundry, or baking. Just the real skills I've seen moms use that make motherhood enjoyable and family life fun for everyone. All of these "skills" are life long skills and you can easily start practicing them now.
You are off the hook for being completely responsible for your kids’ happiness and feelings. You aren’t responsible for anyone’s feelings.
It seems counter intuitive because we often think a parent’s job is to make their kids happy and give them all the things they need to happy and successful.
The Modern Motherhood Manifesto. 1. I don’t strive to be a perfect mom. 2. I create my own unique version of motherhood.
If you want to prevent loneliness in motherhood, make sure you know how to connect with yourself before you have kids. You will naturally be pulled outward when you become a mom. But knowing how to get back to yourself is invaluable.
If you are worried you shouldn’t have kids because you can’t stand most children, then think again.
You aren’t meant to love and like all children. There is nothing wrong with you if you don’t flip your lid at every baby you see.
There’s a million books on parenting and babies, not to mention advice from family and strangers. Then there’s the parenting forums and the Google rabbit hole. Everyone has a different take and statistics seem to say one thing one year and another the next. If you are looking for someone to tell you how to the perfect parent, you are out of luck. One thing that is always consistent and “right” is your intuition. It can guide you by telling you what doesn’t feel right and/or by giving you a great idea or solution. If you have time to further develop anything about yourself, your intuition would be one of the most useful things to come into motherhood with. Of course this means trusting your own judgement, ignoring the judgement of others, and being confident enough to follow your gut.
One of the strengths of being a woman is being able to tune into the needs and feelings of others. However sometimes it makes it harder to tune to our needs and feelings.
Time to treat yo self!
Infertility and trying to conceive is such a heavy topic. There’s dread, fear, worry, anxiety, struggle, pain, loss, financial hardship, no control, broken dreams, etc. Blogs and blogs full of pain. There isn’t much out there on the gifts of infertility.
But there is nothing in this life good or bad that isn’t a gift. There isn’t a time that could be a chance to learn, grow, explore, or stretch ourselves. Sometimes we just want to pout and grieve, but we don’t have to get stuck there.
One of the biggest pains in waiting to become a mom is waiting.
We all want our kids to feel loved. But everyone has different love languages. Find out yours and practice all of them before you little ones gets here.
People talk about a mother's love as being the ultimate, unbreakable, unconditional love out there. But people show love in many different ways. Maybe your mom expressed her love by telling you how to improve, pushing you, tough love, making decisions for you, worrying about you, protecting you from the outside world, or sacrificing her life to focus on you.
What if you she let you evolve on your own terms and at your own pace? What if you could be whatever you needed to be?
